20 questions...and if you really want to know.... I am a work in progress..

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

Anna Quindlen (1953 - )

1) What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why

at this time of my life I am looking for someone who will

accept my failings, love me for who I am,

and cherish what time we have together

and find time to live, love and laugh

2) What do you think is the biggest mistake that men/women make in their relationships?

people tend to take forgranted that every moment with someone who loves us is a precious thing- make every moment count

3) What are the qualities of your ideal relationship

humour, passion, thoughtfulness, and the willingness

to admit what you dont always know and be smart enough to always want to learn

4) Have you ever had your heart broken?

Many times.. but I have survived the pain and kept my heart strong enough to love again.. and learn from my mistakes and figure out what it is I am really looking for...im a hopeless romantic

5) What scares you the most about opening your heart to your partner?

Not to have the love reciprocated..

its embarassing when its one sided..but

I can never say that I wasnt

honest about how I felt about anyone Ive known..

6) Has any book or movie made an impact on you?

Book: The five people you meet in heaven by Mitch Albom

I love books that make you think and appreciate whats important..

7) What is the most annoying thing that someone could do to you?

FORGET ME!!

8) If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?

I think I should have been a therapist or something to do with teaching

9) What do you like to do for fun?

bake

scrabble

backgammon

pool

read

blog

10) What is the biggest mistake that people make on a first date?

talking excessively about an ex..a little is okay but over the course of the whole date.. keep the baggage locked up thanks

11) What do you look for in a guy/ girl?

thoughtfulness..to be there in the moment

12) Define a truly successful relationship

COMMUNICATION/TRUST/HONESTY/LAUGHTER AND PASSION..not necessarily in that order

13) What happened with your last relationship?

IT WAS A REBOUND AFTER THE FAILURE OF MY MARRIAGE OF 15YEARS...it was TOO SOON ..I SHOULD HAVE DATED MUCH MORE.. AND THEN I STOPPED dating ALTOGETHER TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT ME.. ITS HELPED IN GOING FORWARD now..

14) What were your life-changing moments?

THE BIRTH OF MY SON

THE END OF MY MARRIAGE

THE END OF A 25 YEAR CAREER IN THE FOOD INDUSTRY AND THE BEGINNING OF A TEN YEAR (TO DATE) CAREER IN THE HEALTHCARE INDUSTRY

THE LOSS OF 90 LBS AND THE STRUGGLE TO KEEP IT OFF

15) What is the weirdest thing about you?

MY SENSE OF HUMOUR IS PROBABLY THE WEIRDEST and my friends say my most endearing THING ABOUT ME

16) Are you cheap or thrifty?

THRIFTY..I LIKE LOOKING FOR DEALS BUT IM NOT CHEAP

17) Which is the one book that has really impressed you?

YOU ON A DIET- BY DR OZ ..HAD THE MOST INFLUENCE ON STARTING TO TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE

18) Would you have plastic surgery done on your body?

IF I HAD THE MONEY...MAYBE.

19) What was your most embarrassing moment?

..outside of publicly writing this blog???hmmm I will get back to you on this one

20) Tell me about your family...

I will try not to drone on and put you to sleep..cause If i talk about my family I'm sure I will end up going on incessantly and it would certainly take to long..so I will attempt a quick synopsis...my immediate family are made up of 7 strange and lovely characters-

1)Mum (Canadian born and bred-a musical soft woman with a huge heart )

2)Dad ( British- born in Stoke) -the humorist and staunch Sgt Major..who came to Canada at 19..

They are a lovely couple who I'm surprised after being together over 50 years & after retiring have'nt killed each other by now

(seriously those two wouldnt know what to do without each other)

3) The first born -my brother- the typical perfect overacheiver who moved to the States at 18- I'm sure to get away from his 4 drama queen sisters who were reared to specifically torture him...in his mind.. anyway....

4)the second child -a daughter who was the hell raising black sheep of the family- probably in protest from the firstborn.and driven as well ...but in the hopes to send our parents round the bend with her every action and who ..ironically enough,is the one closest with Mum n Dad...

5)This is where I fit into the mix..the middle child -that in itself being a good reason to go to rehab- perfect in every way...NOT!!!..now the budding writer/artist/wanna be therapist/jack of all trades and ace of none...

6)Moving on..the fourthchild- the attention seeking Hairstylist -quite the Diva when she wants to be but still likes to control the destiny of her brood..who entertains us with their own brand of family Drama..who needs Coronation Street??

7) then last but not least the baby of the family whos endearing ways as a child made her the favourite of all ..and who is still a cheekie monkie at heart

We are the typical family of a generation where large families were the norm.. (personally I think abnormal..but then thats just me)

HEY WAKE UP!!!LOL